8 weeks post-op - tough times

This last week seems to have felt like really hard work, for both Nick and myself.

Nick has found it very tough trying to get back to school, constantly trying but not managing. And every time he does make it to a lesson he ends up with more work to do whilst having to recover from making the lesson in the first place. He admitted to me that he had considered stopping school completely, which is extraordinary for him because he has always been completely determined to complete his schooling.

He was in school for a full day yesterday, which we now realise was a bit too soon. He was absolutely shattered afterwards and consequently needed a lie-in the next morning.

He is also still worried that something is not right, or at least that he is not progressing as much as he should be. His physio was re-iterating to him yesterday that it will take time because his nerve was compressed for so long. Also, Nick was using how far forwards he could bend as an indicator of progress. The physio discouraged this, pointing out that other aspects may be improving (eg how long he can sit) so he shouldn't focus on just one indicator.

He's had the start of a couple of flare-ups, but each time we have managed to divert it by rest or Diazepam. Each time it has been sitting that has caused the problem.

People are now starting to ask when he'll be starting to play tennis again - well meant questions but for someone who struggles to sit yet alone run it doesn't really help being asked when he can play tennis!

His year group at school are going through various activities designed to help them plan university/career paths which is creating another cause of anxiety for him. Hardly surprisingly he can't contemplate careers when all he has ever wanted to do was to play tennis and that's something he can't do at the moment.

Overall, this is where he is at...

• Can sit for about an hour at a time before his upper back starts to ache and he feels stiff
• Generally standing and walking properly unless pain has kicked in, when he then tends to lean forwards
• Only once taken any pain meds this week, and that was after sitting for too long
• Still needing to lie down a lot
• Finds gentle stationary cycling helps to mobilise his back
• Muscles - generally he says his muscles feel looser... hamstrings slightly, glutes fine, calves slightly. New last night at the physio was that his QL is tight
• Tried a sports massage last night, focusing on his QLs, glutes and hamstrings. Also being taught to breathe better to help relax. Comment re sports massage - yes, seems to have helped
• Emotionally, fragile. Ups and downs. Sometimes very worried about it all, sometimes pretty calm
• Schooling - tricky but slowly managing to sit through some lessons. Took an iPad into school yesterday so that he could type lying down. Double lessons still a bit of a nightmare for him
• Some of his physio exercises trigger pain on occasions so he tends to mix and match what he does, avoiding those that are painful. No new exercises added this week to his 7 week routine

Each evening we plan out the next day. I then email school and his teachers to let them know when Nick is hoping to be in and I keep my fingers crossed that he'll wake up the next morning feeling ready for it. It does make it hard for me to get much done as I never know in advance when I will be needed to take/collect him to/from school but we have found that planning more than one day in advance just doesn't work.

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